IMPORTANT TO NOTE
The Haney Neptunes
- We are all here because we love the sport. We hope that you will too, but remember, this is about the athletes and not the parents.
- We value our coaches and treat them with the respect and dignity that they deserve.
- We put personal safety and well being as a top priority.
- We are here to encourage and foster self-growth and personal accomplishments.
- Please be aware that your behavior affects others. All our athletes are expected to treat all members of the team, coaches, parents, officials and members from opposing teams with respect and dignity.
- Your coach will expect you to use proper pool and/or lane etiquette. Please obey all recreational facility rules. You will be responsible for the care and proper use of all equipment and will be expected to help put away supplies.
- Your coach is there to help you so please listen to what they have to say.
- Change rooms are there for your use so deck-changing will not be permitted.
You are an important part of our club. We value your volunteerism and support. We encourage all parents to recognize our athlete’s hard work and dedication. Let’s offer praise and support not only to our own children but to each other’s as well.
- We encourage you to get to know your child’s coach but remember that on deck is not the place to speak to them. Our coaches focus their attention solely on the athletes during this time.
- Allow your child and coach to work together. You might be amazed at what they can accomplish without you.
- Please be aware that coaches are not responsible for your children anywhere other than on deck and in the pool. If you have a young child participating and feel that they need supervision during bathroom breaks or before or after practice, that remains your responsibility.
- The Director of Swimming, Water Polo or Synchro, or the President of the Club is available to help you sort out any issues that you may have.
- If you do not agree with an official’s decision this summer, you may bring this to the attention of our coach. The coach will act as a liaison between you and the official.
- We have both a website www.haneyneptunes.com and an information board at the pool with all the information that you will require this summer. Please check back to both of these on a regular basis. In addition, the executive will send out emails whenever we need to get information out. Please feel free to contact any member of the executive when you feel the need arises. We are here to help you.
CODE OF CONDUCT
BCSSA's Code of Conduct click here.
Always assume the best intentions:
We are a club and must be supportive of each other. When you have a criticism or complaint always strive to offer a creative solution to go with it..
Haney Neptunes executive members welcome questions that are general in nature and are only too happy to provide information to members. We ask, however, that questions or comments that could be construed as complaints about executive decisions or club policies be addressed to the Director of Community Relations, Nigel Seneviratne, Past President, David Rosec, or the Club President, Antony Cowie.
Furthermore, the Haney Neptunes executive asks that any such comments be respectful and be made in writing or by email to the appropriate individual. Executive members are all volunteers and do not have office hours. When executive members are relaxing at home or watching their children at the pool, it is uncomfortable for them, and unreasonable to ask them, to receive comments of criticism or complaints. By addressing these concerns in writing it affords your executive members the time they need to address your concerns appropriately.
The executive welcomes open communication and encourages all members to approach any of our executive with any questions they might have. We intend, however, to give our hard-working executive the time they need to respond, and to prevent them from having to address sensitive matters at the pool, or over the phone when they might be otherwise distracted.
Your cooperation is greatly appreciated.
50 Things to Help your Child Achieve
Taken from www.usaswimming.org
By Wayne Goldsmith and Helen Morris
- Love them unconditionally.
- Support their coaches.
- Accept that they cannot win every time they compete.
- Allow them to be kids and have fun.
- Help them to develop as people with character and values.
- Turn off as a sporting parent: don’t make sport the one and only topic of conversation at the dinner table, in the car, etc.
- Don’t introduce your child as “This is my son/daughter the swimmer.” Their sports are something they do, not who they are.
- Don’t do everything for them: teach responsibility and self-management.
- Reward frequently for success and effort but make the rewards small, simple, practical and personal. Kids don’t need a CD or $20 just for playing a sport or getting a ribbon.
- Reward them with what they really love: your time!
- Be calm, relaxed and dignified at competitions.
- Accept that progress in any sport takes a long time: at least 7 to 10 years after maturation in most sports for the athlete to reach full potential. A little manual work and helping out with household chores are important lessons in developing independence.
- Believe it or not, kids can learn to pack and unpack their training bags and fill their own water bottles: teach and encourage them to take control of their own sporting careers.
- Don’t reward championship performances with junk food.
- Skills and attitude are most important. Don’t waste money on the latest and greatest equipment or gimmicks, hoping to buy a short cut to success.
- Encourage the same commitment and passion for school and study as you do for sport.
- Avoid relying on or encouraging “sports food” or “sports supplements”-focus on a sensible, balanced diet which includes a variety of wholesome foods.
- Allow kids to try many sports and activities.
- Don’t specialize too early. There is no such thing as a 10 year old Olympic swimmer.
- Junk food is OK occasionally. Don’t worry about it, but see #14 above.
- Praise qualities such as effort, attempting new skills and hard work rather than winning.
- Love them unconditionally (worth repeating!!)
- Have your “guilt gland” removed: this will help you avoid phrases like “I’ve got better things to do with my time” or “do you realize how much we give up so that you can swim?” Everyone loses when you play the guilt game.
- Encourage activities which build broad, general movement skills like running, catching, throwing, agility, balance, co-ordination, speed and rhythm. These general skills can have a positive impact on all sports.
- Encourage occasional “down time”-no school or sport-just time to be kids.
- Encourage relationships and friendships away from training, competition and school work-it’s all about balance.
- Help and support your children to achieve the goals they set, then take time to relax, celebrate and enjoy their achievements as a family.
- Never use training or sport as punishment-i.e. more laps/more training.
- Do a family fitness class-yoga or martial arts or another sport unrelated to the child’s main sport. Everyone benefits.
- Car pool. Get to know the other kids and families on the team and in turn you can allow your child to be more independent by doing things with other trusted adults.
- Attend practice regularly to show that you are interested in the effort and process, not just in the win/lose outcome.
- Help raise money for the team and kids, even if your own child does not directly benefit from the fundraising.
- Tell your children you are proud of them for being involved in healthy activities.
- Volunteer your time for the team.
- Teach your child the importance of “team”-where working together and supporting each other are important attributes.
- Even if you were an athlete and even if you are a trained coach, resist the temptation to coach your own child, it rarely works.
- Be aware that your child’s passion for a particular sport may change.
- Be aware that skills learned in one sport can often transfer to another.
- Accept “flat spots” or plateaus-times when your child does not improve. During these times encourage participation for fun, focus on learning skills and help develop perseverance and patience.
- Believe it or not, American kids are unlikely to die from drinking tap water!
- Cheer for your child appropriately. Do not embarrass yourself or your child.
- Make sure that each week includes some family time where you do family things and talk about family issues-not about sport.
- Take a strong stand against smoking and drug use (both recreational and performance enhancing.)
- Set an example with sensible, responsible alcohol use.
- Don’t look for short cuts like “miracle sports drinks” or “super supplements”-success comes from consistently practicing skills and developing an attitude where the love of the sport and physical fitness are the real “magic.”
- If one of your children is a champion athlete and the others in the family are not so gifted, ensure that you have just as much time, energy and enthusiasm for their activities.
- Eliminate the phrase “what we did when I was swimming.....”
- Encourage your children to find strong role models but try not to let this decision be based on sports only. Look for role models who consistently demonstrate integrity, humility, honesty and the ability to take responsibility for their own actions.
- Encourage your children to learn leadership and practice concepts like sharing, selflessness, team work and generosity.
- Don’t compare your child’s achievement to another other children-good or bad. This creates barriers and resentment and we don’t need any more of that!
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